Messaging Opponents

Is it always toxic? Seems like win or lose I can never get a quality conversation in game chat or post game. Even when all I say is GG.

When do you message opponents?

I only ever do when its a super close game to the very end. I’ll shout out either way to my opponent it was a hard fought battle and right; coulda went either way. Usually a good response comes back.

If I get random trash talk I usually just ignore their messages, most likely ticks them off more than any reply could.

Busta said:

I only ever do when its a super close game to the very end. I’ll shout out either way to my opponent it was a hard fought battle and right; coulda went either way. Usually a good response comes back.

If I get random trash talk I usually just ignore their messages, most likely ticks them off more than any reply could.

See now that’s what I’ve been doing too. I beat someone 25-22 and all I said was gg. He comes back with, “Nah, don’t say gg when you put chew clock on in the 4th,” I wasn’t aware effective clock management made it a bad game. To add some context I even had to go for it on 4th and short to keep the ball away from him because he was starting to cook on offense. I knew if I took 3 and kicked it to him he’d probably go down and score. He definitely had multiple opportunities to win.

However, one of my friends messages almost every single opponent. Whether it’s a good game, or he thinks they run a cheesy trash scheme and wants to give them a hard time. I would like to make more friends that play madden but everyone is so negative.

Whenever I feel the need to message them. If they make me mad by being the cheesiest player known to man kind, I message them. Or if someone got super lucky. But mostly on a GG. When my Reggie white pick sixed someone for the win I sent him a message saying I’m the luckiest man alive, we had a great conversation about how to get better and the state of the game. I even recommended him to Mut.gg so if you see this, I remember you

i removed the message feature. i kinda only respond in-game when someone is crossing the line, if someone is saying im trash or whatever, that's just normal pick-up basketball talk etc. its a good technique some use to get in your head, plus they humble up when you beat them. other guys, i won't completely stoop to their level but i'll say something back. the worst guys are the ones that you've been beating up , and then in the 4th you randomly fumble, "drops open passes" activates and as you lose by a field goal, a guy turns on his mic like ...Ahhhhahahahahah. you guys are the WORST LOL

I never message my opponent's with toxicity unless they come at me first and I'm in the mood.  If I play someone who I think is good or has a tough scheme I will message them with something positive regardless of whether I win or lose.  I almost always get a toxic response though lol.  

One thing I like to do is message them about their scheme - for example a guy might run a heavy blitz scheme or all Cover 2 Man on defense... or goal line or Bunch TE every play... I will mentioned what they were doing specifically in my note like "man I hate facing that tough goal line offense every play".  Later when I match up with them again (assuming I recognize their usertag)... I quickly check my messages and that reminds me what I'm likely to face.  It just helps me get into the right mindset to play them when I know what to expect.

wish someone would massage me once in a while

Ducati0307 said:

I never message my opponent's with toxicity unless they come at me first and I'm in the mood.  If I play someone who I think is good or has a tough scheme I will message them with something positive regardless of whether I win or lose.  I almost always get a toxic response though lol.  

One thing I like to do is message them about their scheme - for example a guy might run a heavy blitz scheme or all Cover 2 Man on defense... or goal line or Bunch TE every play... I will mentioned what they were doing specifically in my note like "man I hate facing that tough goal line offense every play".  Later when I match up with them again (assuming I recognize their usertag)... I quickly check my messages and that reminds me what I'm likely to face.  It just helps me get into the right mindset to play them when I know what to expect.

that's actually a good unique strategy. I typically just send a GG when it's a quality game that goes down to the wire, but even that is toxic now i guess.

Daddy said:

wish someone would massage me once in a while

you must be winning too much

Ducati0307 said:

I never message my opponent's with toxicity unless they come at me first and I'm in the mood.  If I play someone who I think is good or has a tough scheme I will message them with something positive regardless of whether I win or lose.  I almost always get a toxic response though lol.  

One thing I like to do is message them about their scheme - for example a guy might run a heavy blitz scheme or all Cover 2 Man on defense... or goal line or Bunch TE every play... I will mentioned what they were doing specifically in my note like "man I hate facing that tough goal line offense every play".  Later when I match up with them again (assuming I recognize their usertag)... I quickly check my messages and that reminds me what I'm likely to face.  It just helps me get into the right mindset to play them when I know what to expect.

Wow, i adore this interesting approach -- basically taking notes in the chat section, to refer to later.  Sheer genius.  I'm usually far too lazy to pick up my phone to send a message during the game.  I try to almost always send a "GG" over voice chat before things wind down, but it can be dicey -- if you say it too early, folks take that as an insult.  If you wait too long, you miss the dude before they rage quit.  Games rarely seem to go all the way, perhaps because it's so late in the year/season, i honestly do not know.  I was guilty of quitting out of a 20-10 second half game last week, i tossed a bad pick and was too tired to keep going, so i  95% of replies are absolutely toxic, but once in a blue moon i'll encounter some older gentleman halfway around the world.  I can count on one hand the number of decent chats i've had.  I used to message other 49ers theme teams to say "good luck" prior to starting games, but even within the Niner fanbase, i was seeing far too many toxic asshats, so i stopped that sort of initiation.

I typically expect random, low-effort trash talking, sometimes i even enjoy it if i'm in the mood... but the intensely racist shit is where i draw the line.  That shit makes me see red and triggers me almost every single time and i cannot seem to help myself, i start screaming in their stupid faces.  It fires me up so i'm on point with my gameplay and refuse to let those children get a dub.  Damned if you do, damned if you don't is how i see it.

I've been trying to fill up my friends list with other Madden / 49er heads, but it's been a slow process.  Hoping that crossplay opens up more opportunities, especially with PC players.  I could be delusional, but i'm hoping there's a bit more maturity there.

How you can message an opponent? Is it an ingame feature? i am on ps5

Bakaslt said:

How you can message an opponent? Is it an ingame feature? i am on ps5

not sure on ps5, on xbox you just go to the menu, recently played with, click their profile, and message

i have mine shut off so i don't have some stupid kid sending me crap

Comp ruined the game so everyone thinks they're playing for 200k per game and can't just have fun anymore