OP... I just read through this long thread...
I play the old gen version of the game on a current gen console (XBox Series X) and wanted you to know that while the menu's aren't speedy... they're certainly MUCH better than on the XboxOne. I discovered how bad the lag you mentioned was for myself when I took my old console with me on a business trip (it's much easier to pack). And yeah... the game is unplayable... currently taking minutes to switch screens.
I hope going forward that they continue to offer the old gen version of the game as I personally think it's a far superior product from a gameplay perspective. I don't care about "Lurk Artist" or momentum shifts or the stupid tackle battles they have on the current gen version of the game. I want to be able to play defense and actually user lurk.
Maybe they could rebrand it as "Madden Classic"?