Any motivational stuff or tips? ❤️

I just hit the brick wall in life. Not knowing what to do in life, keep on thinking to myself “if I died today, the amount of years that I have lived, I would not be proud of myself“

I just started HS, and decided to push my dream into playing tackle football 

I have a lot less passion then I have for video games as of late and I wanna live my life to my fullest potential not letting video games control my life.   

i didn’t have a lot of self confidence over these past few years since covid and I feel like that was slowed me down for what I have wanted to do since I was just a little kid. Play football. 
I felt like I was overweight(I wasn’t but I just felt fat), I had a lot of acne, not very fit bc video games have came to the best of me since covid. over this past year, I feel like my self confidence has taken an increase, I’ve somewhat cleared up the acne, I lost some weight. 

and now I’m trying out for my HS football team which was my all time dream. 
I decided to share this because you all have been my brothers since day 1, september 17, 2022, joining this wonderful community ❤️

any tips or motivation for this new journey?

god bless each and every one of you and remember to follow your dreams ❤️

don’t try to be cool.

Daddy said:

don’t try to be cool.

really bro, really

Daddy said:

don’t try to be cool.

don’t be a jerk bro

EazyBreezy said:

don’t be a jerk bro

That was my advice “bro”

that’s what my dad told me on my first day of highschool. I didn’t know what he meant until way afterwards

Daddy said:

That was my advice “bro”

that’s what my dad told me on my first day of highschool. I didn’t know what he meant until way afterwards

you never post anything somewhat nice to me 

what did I ever do or are u just like this

if u don’t got anything nice to say just don’t say it.

Let's stay on topic please.

Daddy's advice is actually quite good. When you're out of high school no one will care if you were cool or not in high school. Focus on you and making yourself better. Get good grades and learn.

I think you gotta remember to tune out the haters. I‘ve known a lot of people including myself who spent a lot of time caring what others thought or said about you behind your back. In reality you gotta tough that out. Ik it’s easier said than done but just follow your dreams do what you enjoy doing and don’t listen to the people who try to tell you what to do, just listen to God. 
After High school and maybe college none of that matters and you’ll regret it if you spent so much time caring about what others think. 
Hope this helps you!!

BeefBalls said:

Daddy's advice is actually quite good. When you're out of high school no one will care if you were cool or not in high school. Focus on you and making yourself better. Get good grades and learn.

This is definitely the truth 100%

AZCARDS said:

I think you gotta remember to tune out the haters. I‘ve known a lot of people including myself who spent a lot of time caring what others thought or said about you behind your back. In reality you gotta tough that out. Ik it’s easier said than done but just follow your dreams do what you enjoy doing and don’t listen to the people who try to tell you what to do, just listen to God. 
After High school and maybe college none of that matters and you’ll regret it if you spent so much time caring about what others think. 
Hope this helps you!!

I ain’t gonna lie I’m not trying to be cool, Ive wanted to play football but wasnt confident in myself 

but im slowly gaining confidence in myself again and wanting to push and keep fighting

EazyBreezy the acne thing hits home.  I think I maybe I have seen one other person in real life that had it as bad as I did,  I am 48, and this was a kid working at a fast food place, within the last few years.  I hope it has gotten more rare or better treatment since I was a kid, but that just gives you an idea of how bad it was.

I take that back, there was a girl that lived a few blocks from me and went to the same elementary, jr high, and high school as me, that may have had it worst.

Being a weak little shit in character as I was and wanting acceptance, as I was always made fun of by everyone, I rejected her interest and I think even made fun of her as well.  I will never live down that shame.

Anyway, it does screw you up.  Dunno if you have the resources ( parents, time etc), but number one get them to find a specialist, if not that at least a dr that knows about it.  I don't know what kind of advances have been made since I was a kid, but I hope a lot.

It can effect your social development, learning, dating, romance, may have lead to social anxiety which I still have not got treated.  In short it can be far worse for you long term than it is right now today.  At least that is what I think happened to me.  

And on top of that my brother was like one of the greatest looking guys in the school, and was pulling in tail without even trying.  It seemed no matter what I did I would fail.  And that creates resentment and jealousy - you must fight that.

Then there is the pain, brother you are not alone.  I think it really is impossible for people that haven't been through it to understand.  The physical pain.  None of the other kids are aware of this.  Don't tell them, hide your weaknesses from other kids without a doubt.  They are not really making fun of you, they are seeking acceptance.  I know that doesn't exactly help.  Kids - I mean up to 20s+ not calling you a kid I hope you understand, are more cruel than seems possible.  Just how it works, that will change though.   

Now on the positive, it will go away.  I am not sure what I should have done to prevent scars, but what I was doing was not the move.  So talk to a dr,  don't try and hide it or act like it doesn't bother you if your parents or dr ask, tell them it is fucking killing you.  I assure you they will help( Actually I can't do that, if they are abusive verbally or physically or have not grown up themselves maybe don't talk to them about this- they may use it to hurt you is some fucking evil way - so my bad I was assuming there).  Brad Pitt - who was born near were I am sitting right now had this issue.  Look at the dude now.  So this is not how it needs to be.  Do not think about finding a permanent solution to a problem that is temporary.  I know it effects every moment and thought you have everyday right now, but this will change.

This will make you stronger than most other people.  You are reaching out to others right now for help, that is stronger than most people already.  You can push yourself much further than others can right now at this moment.  This is a force multiplier.  Just do not lose hope.

Try everything.  Look into support groups - like AA, there has got to be something like that for acne, if not think about creating one, or asking adults you know and can trust about creating one.  A lot of what you are going though will make sense in some way to older adults.  They will have something in there past or present that they feel shame over or are trying to get a handle on and maybe able to offer better ideas.  

Therapy will help.  I don't know how because I was to stupid to ask my parents about it, I was never going to admit it was an issue.  I bet meds prescription topical and there must be by now a pill or something that can help, have come onto the market.  Try everything you can.

I did learn martial arts, learned I could run a 4.31 forty, got into car culture, as a kid, all of that helps - suddenly you are not being judged by how you feel you look, and I assure you, you think you look far worse that you actually do.

The most important thing is do not withdraw into isolation.  You are good at way more things than you realize and all of those things are more important than what you look like.  

Right now at your age the girls care about how you look maybe, but what they really care about is status.  The criteria required to get status at your age is most likely popularity, which is weighted towards looks.  That changes very quickly -  use this time to obtain an education, focus on mastering the info they are teaching, real courses though, science, math, reading.  Not theory and such, none of that will help you be useful. Do they have shop anymore - if so take the shit out of that, home ec.  and such.  Any class taught by a man may be good as well.  Young men need to see what a good man does.  Nothing wrong with female teachers, they are better at actual teaching in most cases perhaps.  You still need to see and hear how a man does things.  In other words they compliment each other.  You need to learn from both of them.  I knew none of this.  

Plumbing, electrical, those guys make bank.  They are not 100k in debt with a degree that has no use.  Keep that in mind.

Here is a secret - the most confident people, the most beautiful people, the most successful people are all terrified you will find out how insecure they really are - this is a human trait.  You know someone long enough and they trust you, this is something you will hear from them.  It blew my mind when I was told this by someone who was successful in all they do, beat alcohol, drugs, hard shit.  Says he has slept with over 100 chicks( I know this is true, seen him use an app go pick some chick up, bring her home let her eat food I had cooked - get this before going and fucking, so  what was the motive there, she smelled it and must have asked him for it , seems odd ( never ever do that - risk of getting robbed, killed is to high).

Now a days that is not hard, do not do that though, back then ( when the count started) we are talking you had to basically meet them when out and about, not online.  I dunno how he could keep track of something like that, anyway - he regrets it, or I maybe should say feels that it was wrong and it makes him in his own eyes a pos, but he was doing it because of his lack of confidence, as if to say I must be worth something because of this.

Advice regarding religion is good.  It gives you something that can not be taken from you.  This makes it difficult to control you this is why they want to make it seem bad.

EazyBreezy said:

I ain’t gonna lie I’m not trying to be cool, Ive wanted to play football but wasnt confident in myself 

but im slowly gaining confidence in myself again and wanting to push and keep fighting

I’m not saying you are just that you shouldn’t

bazookaokc said:

EazyBreezy the acne thing hits home.  I think I maybe I have seen one other person in real life that had it as bad as I did,  I am 48, and this was a kid working at a fast food place, within the last few years.  I hope it has gotten more rare or better treatment since I was a kid, but that just gives you an idea of how bad it was.

I take that back, there was a girl that lived a few blocks from me and went to the same elementary, jr high, and high school as me, that may have had it worst.

Being a weak little shit in character as I was and wanting acceptance, as I was always made fun of by everyone, I rejected her interest and I think even made fun of her as well.  I will never live down that shame.

Anyway, it does screw you up.  Dunno if you have the resources ( parents, time etc), but number one get them to find a specialist, if not that at least a dr that knows about it.  I don't know what kind of advances have been made since I was a kid, but I hope a lot.

It can effect your social development, learning, dating, romance, may have lead to social anxiety which I still have not got treated.  In short it can be far worse for you long term than it is right now today.  At least that is what I think happened to me.  

And on top of that my brother was like one of the greatest looking guys in the school, and was pulling in tail without even trying.  It seemed no matter what I did I would fail.  And that creates resentment and jealousy - you must fight that.

Then there is the pain, brother you are not alone.  I think it really is impossible for people that haven't been through it to understand.  The physical pain.  None of the other kids are aware of this.  Don't tell them, hide your weaknesses from other kids without a doubt.  They are not really making fun of you, they are seeking acceptance.  I know that doesn't exactly help.  Kids - I mean up to 20s+ not calling you a kid I hope you understand, are more cruel than seems possible.  Just how it works, that will change though.   

Now on the positive, it will go away.  I am not sure what I should have done to prevent scars, but what I was doing was not the move.  So talk to a dr,  don't try and hide it or act like it doesn't bother you if your parents or dr ask, tell them it is fucking killing you.  I assure you they will help( Actually I can't do that, if they are abusive verbally or physically or have not grown up themselves maybe don't talk to them about this- they may use it to hurt you is some fucking evil way - so my bad I was assuming there).  Brad Pitt - who was born near were I am sitting right now had this issue.  Look at the dude now.  So this is not how it needs to be.  Do not think about finding a permanent solution to a problem that is temporary.  I know it effects every moment and thought you have everyday right now, but this will change.

This will make you stronger than most other people.  You are reaching out to others right now for help, that is stronger than most people already.  You can push yourself much further than others can right now at this moment.  This is a force multiplier.  Just do not lose hope.

Try everything.  Look into support groups - like AA, there has got to be something like that for acne, if not think about creating one, or asking adults you know and can trust about creating one.  A lot of what you are going though will make sense in some way to older adults.  They will have something in there past or present that they feel shame over or are trying to get a handle on and maybe able to offer better ideas.  

Therapy will help.  I don't know how because I was to stupid to ask my parents about it, I was never going to admit it was an issue.  I bet meds prescription topical and there must be by now a pill or something that can help, have come onto the market.  Try everything you can.

I did learn martial arts, learned I could run a 4.31 forty, got into car culture, as a kid, all of that helps - suddenly you are not being judged by how you feel you look, and I assure you, you think you look far worse that you actually do.

The most important thing is do not withdraw into isolation.  You are good at way more things than you realize and all of those things are more important than what you look like.  

Right now at your age the girls care about how you look maybe, but what they really care about is status.  The criteria required to get status at your age is most likely popularity, which is weighted towards looks.  That changes very quickly -  use this time to obtain an education, focus on mastering the info they are teaching, real courses though, science, math, reading.  Not theory and such, none of that will help you be useful. Do they have shop anymore - if so take the shit out of that, home ec.  and such.  Any class taught by a man may be good as well.  Young men need to see what a good man does.  Nothing wrong with female teachers, they are better at actual teaching in most cases perhaps.  You still need to see and hear how a man does things.  In other words they compliment each other.  You need to learn from both of them.  I knew none of this.  

Plumbing, electrical, those guys make bank.  They are not 100k in debt with a degree that has no use.  Keep that in mind.

Here is a secret - the most confident people, the most beautiful people, the most successful people are all terrified you will find out how insecure they really are - this is a human trait.  You know someone long enough and they trust you, this is something you will hear from them.  It blew my mind when I was told this by someone who was successful in all they do, beat alcohol, drugs, hard shit.  Says he has slept with over 100 chicks( I know this is true, seen him use an app go pick some chick up, bring her home let her eat food I had cooked - get this before going and fucking, so  what was the motive there, she smelled it and must have asked him for it , seems odd ( never ever do that - risk of getting robbed, killed is to high).

Now a days that is not hard, do not do that though, back then ( when the count started) we are talking you had to basically meet them when out and about, not online.  I dunno how he could keep track of something like that, anyway - he regrets it, or I maybe should say feels that it was wrong and it makes him in his own eyes a pos, but he was doing it because of his lack of confidence, as if to say I must be worth something because of this.

Advice regarding religion is good.  It gives you something that can not be taken from you.  This makes it difficult to control you this is why they want to make it seem bad.

woah that’s a lot