Single, in a relationship, or married?

Hurtsmvpszn said:

Single cuz talking to girls is scary

Fax

EazyBreezy said:

Single and ugly asf so probably gonna be for a while lol

so relatable for me lol

There is someone for everyone out there, don't get discouraged.  Sometimes even a person that might make a great match (for you) won't work out due to unfortunate timing or other circumstances outside your control.  While you are waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right, continue working on bettering yourself.  Find your passions, learn a new hobby/skill, meet new people with similar (or different) interests... make sure you are eating healthy, getting plenty of exercise and the one i struggle with immensely, is drinking sufficient amounts of water.  I know this is super generic advice, but as men we aren't required to be pretty on the outside.  Sure it never hurts, but absolutely not a requirement for finding a mate.  External beauty fades in us ALL.  Find a mate you can have a conversation with, someone that supports you and challenges you and forces you to be a better human being.  People change, but value systems do not.  Make sure your match has similar values on a broad range of topics.  As old timey as it may sound, stereotypical women are conditioned to search for providers and protectors.  Simply having a stable job makes you more attractive.  You can't buy love, but you also can't EEAT or pay rent based on good looks alone.  Most of us weren't born into wealth.

Dating in your twenties is NOT real life.  Use that period to figure out what you do not want out of a relationship.  Put yourself out there, take some chances.  Get your heart broken.  It'll feel liek the end of the world at the time, the pain can be crushing and unbearable, but don't give up.  You'll find someone better, i promise.  Learn to communicate and compromise, ALL relationships require lots of both -- but never settle.

You're good enough, you're smart enough and gosh darnit, people liek YOU.

For the record, i'm happily married, nearly a decade.  I wish you all much success.  Relationships are difficult and require constant effort to maintain from both parties.  It cannot be a one-way street.

</end unsolicited advice>

Hurtsmvpszn said:

Single cuz talking to girls is scary

start being a man bro just let it flow start a convo and if she keeps it going dont let it stop

EazyBreezy said:

Fr

you just have to know how to talk to them

peatrick said:

There is someone for everyone out there, don't get discouraged.  Sometimes even a person that might make a great match (for you) won't work out due to unfortunate timing or other circumstances outside your control.  While you are waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right, continue working on bettering yourself.  Find your passions, learn a new hobby/skill, meet new people with similar (or different) interests... make sure you are eating healthy, getting plenty of exercise and the one i struggle with immensely, is drinking sufficient amounts of water.  I know this is super generic advice, but as men we aren't required to be pretty on the outside.  Sure it never hurts, but absolutely not a requirement for finding a mate.  External beauty fades in us ALL.  Find a mate you can have a conversation with, someone that supports you and challenges you and forces you to be a better human being.  People change, but value systems do not.  Make sure your match has similar values on a broad range of topics.  As old timey as it may sound, stereotypical women are conditioned to search for providers and protectors.  Simply having a stable job makes you more attractive.  You can't buy love, but you also can't EEAT or pay rent based on good looks alone.  Most of us weren't born into wealth.

Dating in your twenties is NOT real life.  Use that period to figure out what you do not want out of a relationship.  Put yourself out there, take some chances.  Get your heart broken.  It'll feel liek the end of the world at the time, the pain can be crushing and unbearable, but don't give up.  You'll find someone better, i promise.  Learn to communicate and compromise, ALL relationships require lots of both -- but never settle.

You're good enough, you're smart enough and gosh darnit, people liek YOU.

For the record, i'm happily married, nearly a decade.  I wish you all much success.  Relationships are difficult and require constant effort to maintain from both parties.  It cannot be a one-way street.

</end unsolicited advice>

i 100% agree work on your physical appearance take care of your face and skin, get rid of zits or blemishes, act very confident around the girls you have any feelings for get some drip, the 27c airmaxes are the shoes to get wear 2-3 bracelets so it looks like you can get girls silver chain
(not gold) probably a good clean hat DO NOT SAG wear name brand stuff get an iphone if you have a android GET GOOD GRADES have a dip when you walk and start training for a sport a contact sport!!!!!!!! not basketball make sure you have some pop when you flex and always flex traps while next to girls and finally get a one laugh just a simple ha just to make them think theyre funny even though every guy knows they are not

this is the number one way to get girls

peatrick said:

There is someone for everyone out there, don't get discouraged.  Sometimes even a person that might make a great match (for you) won't work out due to unfortunate timing or other circumstances outside your control.  While you are waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right, continue working on bettering yourself.  Find your passions, learn a new hobby/skill, meet new people with similar (or different) interests... make sure you are eating healthy, getting plenty of exercise and the one i struggle with immensely, is drinking sufficient amounts of water.  I know this is super generic advice, but as men we aren't required to be pretty on the outside.  Sure it never hurts, but absolutely not a requirement for finding a mate.  External beauty fades in us ALL.  Find a mate you can have a conversation with, someone that supports you and challenges you and forces you to be a better human being.  People change, but value systems do not.  Make sure your match has similar values on a broad range of topics.  As old timey as it may sound, stereotypical women are conditioned to search for providers and protectors.  Simply having a stable job makes you more attractive.  You can't buy love, but you also can't EEAT or pay rent based on good looks alone.  Most of us weren't born into wealth.

Dating in your twenties is NOT real life.  Use that period to figure out what you do not want out of a relationship.  Put yourself out there, take some chances.  Get your heart broken.  It'll feel liek the end of the world at the time, the pain can be crushing and unbearable, but don't give up.  You'll find someone better, i promise.  Learn to communicate and compromise, ALL relationships require lots of both -- but never settle.

You're good enough, you're smart enough and gosh darnit, people liek YOU.

For the record, i'm happily married, nearly a decade.  I wish you all much success.  Relationships are difficult and require constant effort to maintain from both parties.  It cannot be a one-way street.

</end unsolicited advice>

I liked a lot of that, inclusive language, good advice. I will say a lot of “being pretty” for dudes or whatever is just like trimming your nails and keeping your facial hair neat. You don’t gotta have long or short nails or clean shaven or a long beard as long as it’s like that because you like it and not because you can’t be bothered on hygiene lol. Also use conditioner while you have hair lmao

MMGismydaddy said:

i 100% agree work on your physical appearance take care of your face and skin, get rid of zits or blemishes, act very confident around the girls you have any feelings for get some drip, the 27c airmaxes are the shoes to get wear 2-3 bracelets so it looks like you can get girls silver chain
(not gold) probably a good clean hat DO NOT SAG wear name brand stuff get an iphone if you have a android GET GOOD GRADES have a dip when you walk and start training for a sport a contact sport!!!!!!!! not basketball make sure you have some pop when you flex and always flex traps while next to girls and finally get a one laugh just a simple ha just to make them think theyre funny even though every guy knows they are not

this is the number one way to get girls

a lotta the specifics don’t really matter but I’m glad you have them here cos “wear chains“ “have nice shoes/stuff” can be really vague. Just remember that if she’s only with you cos you buy her things she’s probably not the girl for you (although if you don’t mind that then thats cool too)

MillicentBystander56 said:

Ive had the same gf going on for 6 years now how about you guys?

Nice!  Good luck to you two.

I'm single atm.  Don't see that changing anytime soon, but you never know.  Trying to get my life on track and it's not necessarily a priority at the moment.

elmango30 said:

a lotta the specifics don’t really matter but I’m glad you have them here cos “wear chains“ “have nice shoes/stuff” can be really vague. Just remember that if she’s only with you cos you buy her things she’s probably not the girl for you (although if you don’t mind that then thats cool too)

yeah dont buy her anything make yourself look better and make it look like you care about your appearance

MMGismydaddy said:

yeah dont buy her anything make yourself look better and make it look like you care about your appearance

Fr, guys forget to do that a lot

elmango30 said:

Fr, guys forget to do that a lot

bro ngl i do to sometimes

MMGismydaddy said:

bro ngl i do to sometimes

it helps if you like men lol

elmango30 said:

it helps if you like men lol

lol