I split my time between mlb the show and madden and this is what I found.
Mlb the show online players are gracious and fun opponents. I have played 300 online games so far this season and have gotten zero racist, homophobic, mean spirited messages either in chat or text
Madden on the other hand I can always depend on being messaged with hateful, racist and downright cruel shit. I lost my super bowl last night with my kid cheering me on a touchdown with 5 seconds left. Great game. I had every intention of throwing him a GG after the game and instead he had to hop on the mic, call me trash, tell me get off his fucking field and delete madden. In 10 years of playing mlb the show this has happened exactly zero times. I don't want to shut down my dms to new folks because I have made some great friends that way, but this is getting to be too much to expose my child to. If you think I'm being an overly sensitive little bitch, I guess i am. I just don't understand the anger